Date Night Tuesday x Sparks Social Club
Green Flags, Red Flags & Real Intimacy: A Conversation on Modern Love
Image credit: Pauline Stockmann © Paula Schu, Selin Ashaghimina © Sparks Social Club
Join us for Date Night Tuesday as we welcome Sparks Social Club’s co-founder Selin Ashaghimina and psychologist and author Pauline Stockmann for Green Flags, Red Flags & Real Intimacy. Together they share their views in a conversation on modern love. Afterwards, ask your own questions in the Q&A part, to find more clarity on pressing questions you might have been asking yourself.
Modern dating can feel like both an opportunity and a source of confusion. We match, we meet, we text, and we try to read signals. But what do we actually mean when we say we’re looking for true intimacy? How do we stay present, open, and connected without losing ourselves in the process? Together, we’ll unpack how we communicate desire, possibly misread signals, and form patterns that shape how we relate to others.
The conversation explores questions such as:
- How do you distinguish between interest and genuine investment?
- Why do we project, and how do we return to ourselves?
- What role do “icks” play, and what do they actually reveal?
- How does intimacy develop without losing one’s sense of self?
After the talk, make use of our Date Night Tuesday offer: two museum admissions for the price of one – perfect to explore our exhibition halls with someone that is already or yet to become dear to you. In addition, champagne and cocktail specials are waiting for you in our Bar Verōnika, 5th and Bar Clara, 6th Floor.
About the Speakers
Pauline Stockmann
Pauline Stockmann is a psychologist and author of Lass mal über Anxiety reden. She runs a digital psychology practice and shares insights on modern relationship culture, emotional self-management, and healthy dating standards. Her work focuses on recognizing genuine closeness, building self-esteem without “games,” and understanding why standards matter more than strategies.
Selin Ashaghimina
Selin Ashaghimina is a creative strategist and community builder. As the co-founder of Sparks Social Club, she develops conversation-led experiences that explore how people connect and relate in a culture shaped by dating apps, swipe-fatigue, and digital overwhelm. With experience spanning brand strategy, editorial work, community-building, and digital culture, her practice focuses on designing environments that encourage depth, presence, and genuine connection.
About Sparks Social Club
Sparks Social Club is a female-founded social experience brand and community reimagining how Gen Z and Millennial creatives connect in contemporary culture. What began as singles gatherings has grown into a wider ecosystem of social events, cultural experiences, and conversation-led formats, alongside analog tools that support meaningful connection beyond the event space. With an emphasis on atmosphere, aesthetics, and emotional depth, Sparks cultivates settings that feel intentional, warm, and genuinely human.